I don't measure up

I Feel Like I Don’t Measure Up [Podcast Episode #087]

Just a few hours ago I found myself in "healthy comparison" mode...

I was in a yoga class with a group of seasoned yoga teachers. Needless to say, I was the worst yogi there.

This was especially evident when it came time for handstand practice. Everyone in the class floated effortlessly into a perfectly vertical handstand while I bounced up and down against a wall trying to get my balance just right.

In this instance, I was inspired to become better. My classmates have been practicing yoga for years, while I'm just starting out. I will get there. I can do it. I am determined to improve.

However, this isn't always the case. Comparing yourself to others can create doubt. You may end up doubting your skills and abilities or even your value as a person. I've been there too. Here's what we can all do to make sure our comparisons are healthy, not unhealthy ones...

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Dave: Hey, thanks so much for joining me in this episode of "The Make Your Body Work" podcast. As you know this show is all about helping you live a healthier and happier life.

Today I am so excited because one of my good friends is on the show today, and you'll see or you'll hear as he explains what he does and his approach to fitness. Why he's the perfect choice for today's question. And I'm going to dive right in.

Selene wrote in and she said "I started going to boot camp classes in January, and have really been enjoying it. The one thing I don't like is how much I compare myself to the other ladies in the class. I know it's not a competition, but it's hard to watch what they do and want to do it even though I likely shouldn't. Where's the line between getting better and pushing too hard?"

Selene, thanks for writing in. Thanks for being really honest. I know this is something that I've struggled with before, comparing myself fitness wise, comparing myself success wise, comparing myself looks wise, comparing myself brain wise, everything to other people. I think I can speak probably for everyone who's tuning in right now, what are the areas that you compare yourself to other people?

Selene says it's in her boot camp class and she knows ... I like what she said, she's really honest, she says "I know I shouldn't do it, I know it's not a competition" but there's something humanistic, there's something about us that we want to be on par. We want to be good. We want to be better.

So it becomes a little bit of a dangerous situation specifically when we're talking about fitness because as Selene points out, when we're watching other people in the gym and in our classes, and we're trying to do what they do.

We don't know what they've been doing training wise. We don't know how their body is functioning. There's no reason why we should be looking at someone else and saying "I must do that" but the temptation is so strong.

I'm really excited to introduce to you my good friend. He has built an amazing business around safe, functional training. He really is the expert when it comes to doing what's right for you. So, proud to introduce Johnny Fukumoto.

Meet Johnny Fukumoto

Dave: Hey Johnny, thanks so much for joining us on the show today.

Johnny: Thanks for having me, Dave.

Dave: You know before we get into the question for today's episode in talking about fitness and exercise and stuff. I want to talk to you about Toggl. Because a lot of my followers of my blog are readers read a post recently where I was talking about time management and you are the guy that inspired this entire Toggl experiment. So, maybe I guess my question for you is, are you still 'Toggling', and for the listeners who don't know what I'm talking about, it's a time tracking app. Are you still doing that right now?

Johnny: I did not do it today but I will continue to do that, yes.

Dave: And we started it, well as of recording this show we started it maybe two weeks ago, can you share a little bit of your results? What have you noticed as you've been tracking your time and seeing where you spend your time?

Johnny: I just became much more aware of different gaps in the day where I would not be doing what I set out to do. Or I'd get caught in conversations that lasted me more than I thought it was supposed to. Just things like that and checking my emails way more than I need to. It just really gave me a good, I guess sense of the truth, kind of like if you've done a food journal. It's kind of eye opening to see what's happening.

Yeah just basically lot's of wasted time which made me feel not so great. And then want to continue to improve that so that when I go home at the end of the day, I don't feel like I have to keep working.

Dave: Same here you know, I wrote this in my blog post but I often thought when I go to turn on my phone and just browse Facebook or browse Youtube or whatever, thought this is going into my Toggl report and I'm going to have to show Johnny this. And I choose not to do it because that accountability. It was such an awesome experience for me.

Johnny: Yeah, I feel the same way. I really enjoy figuring out little ways to make things more efficient and when you kind of extrapolate it throughout a week, or the year it's pretty motivating and eye opening to see what's really happening and how you can improve your life through something like an app. I'm not a big app guy but that one was really good.

Be selective with how you invest your time. You can become very productive once you set your true priorities.

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Dave: And it's neat, like I, you and I were talking before we started recording here. It's actually neat having you on the show because you and I, jeez, we've been friends for, how long? Close to 20 years? 15, 20 years?

Johnny: It's hard to say, I feel like I might have met you in around 2000. Somewhere like that.

Dave: So getting close to 20 years in. Our career paths have sort of differed and now we ended up being very similar career, health coaching, fitness coaching and it's neat because, although our careers have sort of ended up in a similar place there are things that when I look at what you're doing and keep up with your work, you do so distinctly well. And that's why I actually wanted you on this show is today, Selene, she asked this question about comparing herself.

She talks about boot camps, she talks about pushing too hard versus being okay with a level that's appropriate for her and all these things as I was reading her question, I was just like, Johnny's the man.

So before we go into that, can you tell the audience a little bit about your practice. Fukumoto Fitness, what's it all about.

What's Fukumoto Fitness All About?

Johnny: Well, to kind of keep it brief, we run a functional training facility. It is a gym, but everyone who comes in is on a specific program with a coach. It is in a group setting. So the people we work with really enjoy having other people around and having that camaraderie and working together.It is quite diverse, we have people who are 15 years old all the way up to 60, 70's.

So that's kind of our thing. Better together is something you'll hear around here quite a bit as well as a philosophy of progress not perfection which really is a relief for a lot of our members to hear that we can keep moving forward but we want to be reasonable and be kind to ourselves in the way we're making progress. And that probably relates to the person who wrote that question.

We have a big group program and we also work with some specialty groups as well in terms of nutrition coaching, fit pregnancies, obstacle course racing, and kettlebell work for example. But we do a lot of stuff in the community.

We hang out, we have big pot lucks, you know 100 people show up. So it kind of has more than just the work outs. It's got a family feel and we try to be very welcoming and not intimidating but we still hold people accountable and progress them in the way they need to go.

Dave: I said that there's some things that I think you do very, very well and one of the things I've always really respected about your practice is the attention to the individual person that you're working with and what his or her boundaries are. And what's appropriate and helpful for that person. Can you talk a little bit about as a group fitness instructor and gym owner, how do you deal with what Selene's going through? Because you must see this all the time. Or let me ask that question first. Do you see this, the comparison?

Comparisons Are Normal

Johnny: Yes, everybody who comes in is quite nervous just to begin with about, will they measure up? Will they be the least fit person? Will they know what to do? A lot of times in traditional group fitness, it's just someone dancing around at the front and you're trying to keep up and just hiding in the back hoping to make it.

So that's very normal and I think it's more a product of the system that's probably very old. What we have, is we have people come in before and we assess them, look at them and we talk to them and just relieve that anxiety that they have. Everybody has it. So we found that very helpful, something that when I was getting into exercise, I wish someone said.

But then we take a look at the person. We give them a functional movement screen, and we just talk them through how we're going to give them the exercise, the movement that they need for their body, movement wise, fitness level wise and they just need to focus on that.

And even when we tell them that, it's not realistic for us to expect that they're not going to look beside them and see somebody else and feel pressured to do that. But we start the dialog early and then everybody works in their own way within the same program and eventually you're just focusing so much on how you're going to do well that you stop looking around.

Dave: And so would you say that that is actually the outcome, like as you sort of train people in this philosophy and help them focus on their own progress? Do you see that people actually stop looking at each other and comparing and just focus on themselves?

Johnny: I think it depends on the person. If someone really struggles with that, that's probably something that comes from somewhere deeper and it's been that way for a while. But we do see that that tends to be less of an issue.

And when people compare themselves to others it tends to be more of an inspiration type comparison where you look at someone, you say wow, look at that person over there and what they're going through. And there might be some personal connection because all of our people train with the exact same people every day, year after year.

So they might know that person and then that person becomes more human and they use that and say well, maybe I can do a little bit more or maybe I'm fine where I'm at now, that's good for them.

So that would not be as uncommon as in a regular gym facility.

Comparing yourself to others is natural. But, whether you chose to be inspired or to doubt yourself is entirely up to you.

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Using Comparisons for Inspiration

Dave: It's neat when you talk about the comparison for inspiration. I just had an exact, or a perfect example of that. So I started going to a new yoga studio, maybe two or three weeks ago. And the classes that I go to, I'm by far the worst the yogi in these classes.

Everyone else is doing all this crazy stuff that I can't do. And when I first started, when you talked about that insecurity, that's exactly how I felt. I felt like I was the worst one in class, I always went in the back corner so no one was watching me.

But there's one guy who goes to basically every class that I go to. His name's John, John as well. And he's, I don't know, I'd say maybe mid to late sixties and yesterday there was a pose where people could have gone into a handstand or for me, I'm doing a very modified downward dog to try and learn how to do it, eventually do a handstand. And I watched this guy. He flips up into a handstand and is holding it for probably two or three minutes. And at that point it was no longer a comparison. Me saying, oh I suck. It was really inspirational and aspirational. Like I would like to do that at some point.

Johnny: For sure, I have three examples from the last week, Dave. I have one coming up tonight and the issue is that you want to put yourself out there anyway. So whoever your listener is, I just want to commend them for showing up and being there knowing that the comparisons are hard not to do. And also just for asking the question. A lot of people just power through and just do very unsafe things and it's a good question.

I think if you just listen to your body and you talk to the instructor and ask them for their opinion, they're going to be able to help you hopefully gradually progress.

If you want to be able to do some of the cool badass stuff that other people are doing, just ask for an honest opinion. What does it take to be able to do that push up or to be able to do that pull up? And is the work that goes into that realistic for me right now?

If it's not realistic, then just be free from that comparison. If it is then, get a plan and get after it. Just to make it more personal, I just bought a cyclecross bike, I don't know how to get into it, I don't know how to change the tire. It's on a trainer in my basement and I can't go on a bike ride tonight because I don't know how to get it out.

So you know, when I start cycling with guys, I'm going to be super sensitive to comparing. Do I have the wrong tight shorts on? Do I have the wrong helmet? Am I doing something uncool? Tonight I'm going to yoga for date night with my wife, I don't really feel totally like I fit in there because it's not something I usually do.

But I just have to be focusing on, hey, I'm here. I can do some stuff and this past weekend I was at a 16 hour body weight certification where guys instructing in their 50's and 60's can do things that I'm not sure I'll ever be able to do in my entire life being in my mid-30's and in great shape.

You know, I look at those things as inspiration or opportunities and I don't want to jeopardize safety for those things at the same time so I can really empathize with that even though sometimes people look at people in the fitness industry and think they're not human. I definitely can relate to that listener.

Getting Better vs. Pushing Too Hard

Dave: I liked what you said, or it's sort of a shame but I think it's very true what you said that particularly in group fitness quite often we have someone standing on a stage who is ultra fit demonstrating the hardest version of every exercise, kind of yelling or trying at least to pump people up to try and follow that lead. And in reality for many people who are probably in that class, following that lead is the exact opposite of what they need.

So for Selene who, her final line in this message, she said, "Where's the line between getting better and pushing too hard?" What did you think about that?

Johnny: That's awesome. I would say, like I mentioned before, if you're unsure, then just go up to that trainer or that coach and ask them about that and maybe they can get a sense of where you're coming from. And hopefully they can give you some progressions to find out where to start you with in an exercise variation.

They can then be aware that you might be the type of person who's prone to overdoing it and they can kind of dial you back in. We have some clients like that. We just know no matter what we say, they're going to be on that line so we have to pay attention to that.

So I think that partnering with whoever your instructor is will be great and the fact that you're asking and concerned about these questions, I have the feeling that you're not the most dangerous person because you actually care about these types of things.

Dave: I love that, I love that you pointed out the fact that she's asking that is huge because you're right most people would just look at those around them and say okay, I'm going to do that and compromise my form or compromise my safety or do whatever it takes so that at least I feel like I'm doing what everybody else is doing.

Johnny: Totally, it's the no pain, no gain. If it feels horrible I must be getting somewhere but it's not really a great philosophy. I don't know, that really doesn't help anybody just to tough it out or whatever. I totally agree with you on that point.

Dave: What do you think from a mental side of things, and again before the show you and I were already talking about mental strategies that we're individually using to try and get through barriers in our own lives.

What do you teach your clients, or what could you teach listeners who are saying, maybe I look at someone else's life and whether it's just fitness related or just life related and it seems easier for them or I wish I had blank, how do you coach someone through that from a mental standpoint?

Johnny: Well this is super tough because it's not like this is new information but, with all the social media and different outlets out there it's no reason people are not feeling so hot about themselves in terms of what they get to see and what think people's lives are like.

Like that's just, it's just an inaccurate portrait and I think it's unfair to the person judging themselves and I think it's unfair that someone else's life, they would want because it's, you just never know. So kind of realizing that is helpful and maybe that's just simply not just mindlessly browsing through Facebook and Instagram or unfollowing or getting out of certain things that pop up in your feed might just be one practical strategy.

I don't know if that's where you're going for or ...

Everyone has a history. Yours is unique. Give yourself some grace to NOT be in the same place as someone else.

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Experiment to Find Something You Really Enjoy

Dave: Yeah, like I think that's a great example of trying to sort of get past the surface level of what everyone presents to try and see, what's the truth. I'll give you an example in my own life just to kind of normalize some of these feelings, I guess, is right now, so I'm training for my first ever full marathon.

And training was going really great for maybe the first six or seven or eight weeks and just the last week or two, I'll be honest I hate it. I have to go, after this call, I have to go and run my temple run, 13 kilometers temple run. So 13 kilometers at quite a quick pace and I'm dreading it.

And it's easy for me to, I have a bunch of runner friends and it seems like they're all loving running and I feel like the odd man out. Why do I hate this so much? But in reality I've never asked them. I don't know if they're actually loving it. And so I think some of this, and Johnny that's one of the things I really appreciate about our friendship is, some of it is just having communication or talks with other people to find out what's actually going on in their lives.

Johnny: Yeah and for sure and in terms of fitness activities, no one says that everybody has to enjoy this, that or the other thing. If the only thing you earn from the marathon after feeling accomplished is that you hate it, well you don't have to do another one, Dave. You know what I mean?

But people think that especially for those half marathons and things, you know, I'll sign up for that and that'll get me healthy. If you legit hate running, there's so many other things you could do. You can dance, you can play sports, you can do whatever you want and so, it's really up to you what you want to do.

I'm kind of like you, I will try different things and I will do a lot of things not based on how I feel and you can develop lots of good character and get some good experience and experimentation on yourself but it's just as effective for me when I find I try something, give it the good effort and then realize, yeah, I'm okay if I never do that again. Or on the other hand, you find out you love it somehow. So that's just the boxes that we're put in. Everyone seems to define fitness very narrowly and it's really wide open.

Dave: Well yeah, and I love what you said too, about experimenting, finding something you enjoy. And that was something that was really cool about Selene's question. She said, I'll just read her first line again. She says, "I started going to boot camp classes in January", I don't know her history but from that line it sounds like she was trying something new. "And have really been enjoying it." So it's cool because she put herself out there doing something new and found something that she likes.

Johnny: Totally, and she can probably even extrapolate that. What do you enjoy about that? Because there's probably other activities, or other things that contain some of those same qualities that if you're not doing boot camp doesn't mean you can't have a good time or you can get fit another way if life arises and you need to do something else, it's nice to develop options so that it's not just all or nothing.

The right exercise for you is the one you enjoy doing. When you're having fun, you'll always look forward to fitness.

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Dave: I was wondering if you could talk a little bit about your own athletic training. First of all, maybe you can tell the audience a little bit about your competition and the type of races you do.

Johnny: Currently the last four or five years, I've been getting a lot into obstacles course racing which in Canada it's pretty decent in terms of people know about it. In the US and Europe it's massive.

So that could be anywhere, distances between 5K and you know, all the way up to 100 miles. There's things for everything between. I've participated in many spartan races, tough mudders, world's toughest mudder, and a lot of local things. That usually runs more in the nicer months, you know May to October in Canada.

And I really enjoy it because it just involves a lot of different things so when I keep fit and I train for it I get to use a lot of different strength, mobility, there's the cardio aspect in there as well.

Is "Doing Your Best" Good Enough?

Dave: That's where I wanted to go, I wanted to ask you about your training. Because you've done really well. Like right now you're being modest but you've kind of competed at the highest level in these obstacle races and I know how much training you put in.

So I guess my question for you is, you've done what you suggested, like you found an activity that you really enjoy doing. Even after having found that activity, do you find that there are times that you don't like training? Or do you find there are times when you find yourself comparing yourself to other racers? Kind of like Selene alludes to here?

Johnny: Oh yeah. I would say that personally I don't feel like my doing my training almost every time. And I don't even say that in a negative way. It's just that I'm not a professional athlete where this is the only thing I do.

So other things get in the way of my mind space, and so there's a lot of things that make me think, I don't want to train today. I do it anyway and then I really feel great about it after but, yeah. I compare myself.

I'm 10 years older than, five or ten years older that the best guys who are single or they don't have a lot of responsibility necessarily with, they might be in school still or you know, they're in great shape or they're in the mountains and I live in the flattest place on earth.

So there's a lot of thoughts where you're like "I don't have the tools to compete", you know "I've got two kids, I've got a business so there's a lot of things that can go wrong in your mind with that but I got to figure, you know what? I've got to do my best anyway.

I can get better every year, it does involve a lot of running. I never ran as an athlete when I was younger, it was more power like football, hockey so I'm usually slower off the hop and have to be better at other portions of the race that aren't a big part of the race.

So there's a lot of things in there in terms of insecurity but I just have been consistent and find other ways to perform and just to feel good about it. Yeah, so it's exactly what you're talking about.

Even when you think you can't, just do your best anyway. Your best gets better with practice.

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Dave: You know what's cool too is that this whole comparison thing, I love how you sort of suggest that you look at the other racers and at least take into account what their position in life is. 'Cause your example so say a guy's 25 years old, he is living with his parents. He's a single guy, he's got all the time in the world to train and he lives in the mountains. For you to think that just naturally you should be a as good as him is a little bit of a ridiculous thought. But we do it all the time.

I actually was just talking to a client of mine yesterday and she's 52 years old and was saying how she has five to ten pounds to lose. And then she'd feel great about herself. And she was really being hard on herself. Why can't I lose this weight but then she had this moment where she said I do have people all the time that look at me and say, there's no way you're 52.

And it was all of a sudden this flipped switch, and she was like, wait a second, if I look at other women my age who have kids and have a family and have a career, I'm doing pretty great.

Johnny: Totally. I struggle with that because for me I'm just like, so what? I just want to be the best and you know, when you can't do that, then you're looking for excuses or ways to overcome that but you just, you do have to get better at accepting yourself.

You know, I don't sleep much, when I go for a run I might have the two boys and the double chariot and it's like, you know, it's not the most effective way to train but, it's what I can do and you know, and it's also, it's deeper than just training for this stuff. You know, I'm showing them how to be outside and how to be active and there's amazing things that come from that.

And at the end of the day, the best thing in the world, will I really care that much, is that going to add much more value to my life than the other things where I find my life at? No, it's not and I just have to really believe that. It is the truth but sometimes you don't feel like it.

Do You Know What Others are Going Through?

Dave: Yeah, that's so important, you know. Going back to Selene's question, and I'm picturing being in a boot camp class, or for my in yoga or whatever it is. Looking at other people and saying, oh I wish I could do this or why can't I do that? In reality, yeah, it might be great to do that but I love what you just said there, is that actually going to make me more valuable person or is that actually going to somehow magically improve my life?

Johnny: Exactly and we find that all the time, those stories. Had a guy train this morning, he looks fit, he is fit. People look at him and say, you know, oh look at that guy, he can do this. They have no idea, this guy was several hundred pounds overweight. They don't know his story, they don't know about the woman whose got MS in the room.

They don't know this woman here is dealing with this or is recently divorced or whatever it is. Everybody has things that are going on and I wish there was a way to appropriately just put them all out there so everyone could just be cool with themselves.

But it's much easier to play the game in your head that you're the only who doesn't belong. You're the least fit. You don't know that this person has trained three times a week for six years to even get to the point they're at and they might be near you in the fitness level. You know, that's just life. It's not just whatever it is like, rainbows and unicorns or whatever it is.

Dave: You know what, you've just given me an idea, it will be so awesome. Can you imagine if you went into a fitness class and everyone had a t-shirt and it like, wrote out their biggest problem they're dealing with right now and their biggest fear in life, their biggest self-consciousness. How much they've been training, like their whole history and so it's like completely, 100% transparency. Everyone knows what everyone's dealing with.

'Cause you use an example about oh, so-and-so's going through a divorce. Well emotional baggage like that, there's no way that 95% of people in class know that but do you think that's going to impact your workout? Or your performance ability? Of course it is. Just no one knows.

Johnny: No one knows and one of our main jobs here is just to, when people share with us, because they do, we build these relationships over years and, if they're not coming they let us know why and ... We just get to have access to that and use that as coaches and just continue to reinforce to people, "Hey you are, you're doing great, you're here, you showed up."

Like, it's huge and you're not alone, I know tons of people who are going through things right now. And they might be right beside you and just keep doing your best, and it sounds cliché but, the longer I've been in the business, the more real it is that people are not indestructible. It's not all great and they come to help get some stress relief, resiliency and to help just go through life and that becomes a more important focus to a lot of people.

If they were going to be honest then that five pounds or that 10 pounds, you know what I mean? Like, why? Why are they here. And like you said, with your mental and your mindset techniques, like if you don't know why you're running a marathon, Dave, like, you got to stop doing it.

You need to have that ingrained in your system. Maybe you even need to make a big vision board for yourself with a collage and something visual. Some people are visual and need to have those reminders everywhere and be like, this is why I'm doing this.

And out of sight, out of mind for a lot of people, so. I hope that person doesn't feel alone but part of it is, you're going to feel along if you don't include your coach, tell someone and obviously asking that question to you is amazing start.

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Make Your Body Work Takeaway

Dave: Yeah, I love your emphasis on community because it's so true. Everyone performs better and everyone does better in life when we do it with other people.

Johnny we like to wrap up this show with what's called a make your body work takeaway. And basically this is just like that one practical step that someone in Selene's position could take and implement today.

So for anyone who maybe is feeling that burden of comparing themselves. And whether it's in a boot camp class or at the gym or at the office or in their friend group or wherever it is. What would you say? What's the one thing that they could do to help mitigate or minimize those comparisons?

Johnny: I would say if they are in a situation where they are being led by a coach or instructor, that they do physically walk up to that person and say can I have a minute of your time? This is how I'm feeling. And help them know how they're feeling so that they can walk through with them.

If they're kind of just in a general gym setting that's going to be a little bit tougher. It might be some more self talk and mantra where they have to literally tell themselves every time they go to they gym that, you know, I'm okay with who I am and I can't compare. It's unfair for me, it's unfair for that person. And even to know that some people probably are comparing themselves to them in this same way.

So if they do have that person who's running the session or whatever I would be brave and go up and make that introduction.

Dave: Awesome yeah, that's super practical and you know, you're a group fitness instructor, I've taught loads of group fitness classes myself and as an instructor we'd love to hear that. It's awesome when people open up and share and build the community that you guys, just like you're doing at Fukumoto fitness.

Johnny if anyone wanted to contact you, get in touch, maybe ask you questions about what you do or have follow up questions about this whole talk, what's the best way for them to get in touch with you?

Johnny: Well the website for our business is Fukumoto Fitness dot com. I don't know if, probably have to spell that out so we don't get into trouble on the internet. But ...

Dave: I'll put that up. For the listeners in this show and also if you go to Make Your Body Work dot com slash 87, I'll put a link to Fukumoto Fitness so that you, don't have any trouble finding it.

Johnny: Yeah, you don't want to get into trouble at work when you didn't do anything wrong. But also my email is Johnny@fukumotofitness.com and I'd love to hear from anybody who feels that need.

Dave: Awesome, Johnny well thanks again for taking the time to chat with us today and just for sharing some of your expertise. Like I said I really look up to you and appreciate the work that you do and how you really love your clients and really want what's best for them it's not just that push, push, push mentality. But it really is finding what's best for them. So thanks for being with us today.

Johnny: No problem Dave, there's a lot of podcast at there and a lot of them aren't talking about anything that's beyond superficial. It's a privilege to chat with you today.

Dave: Johnny thanks again for being on the show today and just sharing a lot of great tips and practical ideas as to how we can sort of scale back our comparisons and start to focus more on ourself. Why we're doing what we're doing and what our desired outcomes will be.

Thanks for everyone who tuned in and again I just ask the question that I asked at the top of the show: What do you find yourself falling into comparison wise? Where are you comparing yourself versus other people? And maybe most importantly, are those comparisons helpful? Are they inspiring you to be better? Or are they causing you to doubt your own value or question whether you're good enough? And I think that's maybe something that we should all check in on a regular basis. Our comparisons, helpful or hurtful?

If you have any other questions related to this episode or have questions about another topic that you'd like covered in the Make Your Body Work podcast, always email me because I'll go out there and find an expert who can come on the show with me and we can answer that question and hopefully give you some very specific feedback that you can implement into your life. So you can reach me anytime, Dave@makeyourbodywork.com

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Before you go I want to announce again that my new book called Can't Lose is now available through my website. It will soon be available on Amazon and then potentially on store shelves as well. But right now you can get a free copy, all I ask is that you pay for your shipping. On my website if you go to Makeyourbodywork.com/book you can check it out.

And it's highly based on this podcast and the other interviews that I've done throughout my career with some of the world's top health and wellness professionals and we address the questions about what does it take to lose weight. And we take a really holistic perspective. There's 14 chapters, each focusing on a different element of the weight loss equation.

I encourage you as you read this book, I want you to be very picky, I want you to be very selective. What are the most important areas that you need to tackle first? Don't look at the book and say I need to do all 14 of these chapters worth of information 'cause there's a lot in there. What's one or two or maybe three areas that you want to tackle first? And then what's that one baby step that you can do to get yourself started?

So if you have any questions about that, always email me Dave at Make Your Body Work dot com. I'm here to support you and as always I'll be back here with another amazing topic, another amazing guest and I'll be here to answer your questions next week. Have a great week, I'll see you then.

Thanks for joining me today!

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