Never Say “I Don’t Have Enough Time” Again [Podcast Episode #070]
You've likely heard someone say, "If it's important to you, you'll find the time."
This sounds great at first, but putting it into practice isn't so simple. If you could just "find" time, you would. But where is that time coming from?
Instead of looking for new time-saving tips, a new mindset may be solution. That's what we're talking about today. Learn a new approach that will help you avoid saying "I don't have enough time" ever again...
Make Your Body Work Podcast: Episode #070
- Connect With Lisa Carpenter
- Tune into Lisa's "All The Stuff" Podcast
- Get Lisa's "No Deprivation Weight-Loss" [FREE Download]
- Figure Out Your "WHY?" - Follow This Simple Plan
- Which Works Better: "One Step At a Time" OR "Just Go Cold Turkey"? [MYBW Podcast #50]
Never Say "I Don't Have Enough Time" Again [Full Text]
Dave Smith: Hey. Thanks so much for joining me on this episode of the Make Your Body Work Podcast. As you know, this show is all about helping you live a healthier and happier life. "I don't have enough time." Maybe this is something that you find yourself saying a lot or maybe it's something you've said today.
I know I've been through phases of my life where I feel like that's all I ever say, is I don't have enough time. That's what we're talking about today, "I don't enough time." Is that true? Do we actually not have enough time or is there something else that we're saying that we just don't realize we're saying when we make comments like that? This all sparked from a question that I got from Jeanette. Let's dive right in.
Jeanette says, "My biggest issue with getting back in shape all comes down to making time. I've gone on spurts before when I can force things into place, but one wrong turn and I get derailed, things get busy and all of a sudden, I'm back at square one. It's hard to muster up the energy to do it all over again. Any advice on making time would be great."
Jeanette, thanks for writing in. Like I said, we all go through this. "I don't have enough time," but is that the truth? I have a really neat guest today. She's a fitness coach, is formerly a personal trainer, and she really helps. Specifically she works with women, but our advice, our chat today, is going to apply to ... I know it applied to me, so men, this is for you as well.
Really looks at, what is our focus? What is the lens that we look at the world through? How do we approach our day? How do we approach our choices? She asks some really amazing questions that might help all of us who are saying, "I don't have enough time," rethink that statement, so I'm really excited to introduce to you Lisa Carpenter.
Meet Lisa Carpenter
Dave: Hey, Lisa. Thanks so much for joining us on the show today.
Lisa Carpenter: Thanks for having me. I'm excited to have this conversation.
Dave Smith: Yeah. I'm excited to have you here. I was taking a look at your website. I came across you, actually, months ago. I was doing a project where I'd asked my audience from all different areas, you know, socially on my podcast, my email list, about who some of their favorite fitness coaches were, and your name came up a number of times.
You and I hadn't ever met before. I was just checking out on your website and you had a line that I really liked. It said something along the lines of, "I'm not perfect. I'm not Martha Stewart. I don't live on green smoothies." Can you tell me why did you put that on your website?
Lisa Carpenter: Oh. You know this, in our industry there are so many different health trends and then there's a lot of health professionals that kind of live behind this perfect façade of, "I drink my green smoothies every day." That's just not me. I work with the real women who are having real issues with food.
I also am a real woman, so although food isn't necessarily my struggle, I've got two teenage boys, I've got a five year old, my life is busy, so I'm not living this perfect fitness lifestyle. It's really important to me that people understand, who are working with me, that I bring all of me to the table, so a lot of my coaching has to do with the things that I'm going through in my own life and how it relates to my clients, because I want to keep it real for them.
I think a lot of the reason that people get stuck on their fitness goals is they buy into this story that, "Well, she can do that, but I can't. I can't be that way." You know, I joke with my clients that if they passed me on the street, that they might have that stereotypical response to me, because I kind of look like a Barbie doll, to be honest.
I look like that fitness person, but that's not how I live my life. I don't spend hours in the gym. I'm not doing juice cleanses. I'm not living on green smoothies. I am in the trenches with all the other women that I coach.
Dave Smith: Let's get to here, like for myself and for the audience. You ever hear the term about an Instagram fit or an Instagram fitness person?
Lisa Carpenter: Yes.
Dave Smith: Sometimes I'll see these people on Instagram and every picture is of their six-pack or them in the gym or them drinking a green smoothie. You just think, "Maybe it is their life. Maybe that is all they do," but that's what I think. "Do you not have anything else going on in your life?"
Lisa Carpenter: No. It's not my life. One of the things that I practice is progress, not perfection, so I'm not jumping out of bed at 5:00 a.m. like, "Woo-hoo, I get to go work out." Some days I'm like, "Oh my goodness. I'm going to work out. It's still dark out." Some days I hit snooze because rest is more important than going to gym, so that's real life. That is real life.
Some days my meals are not fancy, so I may eat really healthy because that's kind of my jam, but I'm sitting here with smoked salmon beside me and a bag full of vegetables. It's not a glamorous meal, but it does the trick. That's real life. I've been on a lot of calls today and I just have to do what works. That's what I want to empower the women that I work with, with that kind of information as well so they don't have to make it pretty. They just have to figure out what's going to work for them and roll with it.
Dave Smith: Well, that segways so nicely into Jeanette's question because she's asking ... She basically is saying, "Listen, I really want to get back in shape, but I find that I just don't have time and if I slip up once, then all of a sudden, I'll fall off track and I'm back to square one." Just sounds really frustrated. I like that we started this call, actually, with you talking about, you go through that too. When you read Jeanette's question there, was there anything relatable in your life or a time in your life where you feel like you maybe were in Jeannette's position?
You Never Have to Start Over
Lisa Carpenter: I think what I really want to say, and I say this to all my clients again, is there's this belief that we have that, "Oh, I'm starting over". It's not possible to start over. That's the story. We're just beginning again from where we are. Where we get defeated is when we believe that we should be some place that we're not, right?
That's what starting over is all about. It's grounded in this belief that we should be some place other than where we are. It's just not the case, so what I would say to her is, it's okay to begin again and begin again and begin again. That's kind of life. It's your willingness to begin again that you really should be giving yourself high-fives over, because it's when you give up and no longer begin again that you're really in trouble.
Dave Smith: I really like that. That's a great idea. Even the fact that when someone says, "I'm starting over," it makes it sound as if what they've just experienced wasn't relevant or wasn't a learning experience or that there was nothing to gain from it, and that is impossible.
Lisa Carpenter: Exactly, right? It's like, you're starting from a place of already feeling defeated and what is inspiring about that? You know? I went through a period. I've got three kids. I've got a 15 year old, almost 14, and then a five year old.
When I had my five year old, it was a really big wake up call. Like, "Oh my goodness. I'm beginning again." But if I had taken it like, "Oh my God. I'm starting over," which is kind of how I felt in the beginning, to be honest ... It actually was really challenging because I thought like, "Oh my God. I'm starting over." I was almost free.
I really had to work through the fact that I wasn't starting over. I was just beginning again and I knew way more about parenting this time and I was a way different person. I got to bring all these different life skills into this third go around of parenting. It's been a completely different experience for me. The same is true for your nutrition and your exercise.
You have to look at what all you learned in the previous journeys, what knowledge and information are you bringing with you already. You're not just starting from scratch again. You know more than you did when you started five years ago or 10 years ago. You have to value that and honor that.
You never start over. You begin again with more experience.
Dave Smith: Yeah, I think that's so true. Even for Jeanette's question, this is one that I've talked about a lot with different guests on the podcasts and I get emails every day about people saying, "I don't have time. I don't have time." I'm not sure that this question is actually saying like, "How do I make more time?" Because most people know, okay, we can find a few minutes here and there by cutting out things or re-prioritizing, but it's something a little bit deeper than that. Like, how do I make it happen or how do I make it stick?
Waiting To Find the "Right" Time
Lisa Carpenter: I love this. I love this because I believe that you're never going to find the time, right? You're never going to find the time and especially if it's something that you know you don't really want to do, so a lot of people go into changing their eating habits or changing their exercise patterns with this. They don't really want to do it, but they feel like they have to or they should, so they're already coming at it from a negative space. One of the things that I really like my clients to get grounded into is why. Like, what is your why?
Because when you can identify why you really want this thing, and I mean not like, "Well, I want to be fit" or, "I want to lose 20 pounds," that's not your why. Get underneath that. Why is it important for you to get fit? Why is it important for you to lose 20 pounds. How will your life change? Keep asking that question, so write it out and keep asking why.
When you can get to the core of your why and you can start to see why this is so important for you, you will suddenly then find the time, but when we're disconnected from why we really want things, they are never a priority in our lives.
It's Time to Discover Your "WHY?"
Dave Smith: That's really wise. Now when you talked about finding the why right away you said one of the answers might be, "Oh, I want to get fit." That is going to be most people's answer. "Well, why do I want to get fit? Because I don't want to weigh so much. Because I want my clothes to fit better," quite often these superficial answers that come to our mind right away. How do you get someone to go past that?
Lisa Carpenter: You have to be willing to sit down and keep digging. Why do you want to be fit? What would change in your life if you were fit? What do you believe being fit gives people? What things are you not doing in your life right now that you want to be doing?
When you can really dig down, that's when you'll find it. For example in my life, one of the big things that I'm working on right now, which I know will resonate with a lot of people, is paying down my debt. This has been something that I've wanted for a lot of years and I've been saying, "I'm going to pay down my debt" and I've never really paid out my debt.
I've paid down and then I rack it back up again, which is the story for a lot of people as well. Very similar to weight loss, right? You lose weight, you gain it back. When I started to really get under why is this important, because I wasn't paying it off, so I had to get clear on why is this important, and the reality is, when my debt is paid off, what that gives me is freedom.
It gives me the freedom and the additional income to do the things that I want to do, which for me specifically is travel. Not just travel by myself, but traveling with a family of five, which means there has to be significant income behind that. When I'm paying the money down on my credit card and I'm not actually adding any more to my debt, every time I remind myself of why because trust me, I would rather take that money and go buy myself a new pair of shoes than pay off my debt. It's not very exciting.
It's like, you'd rather eat the piece of cake than have another serving of broccoli, but I know that if I stick to my plan, I'm going to get that freedom for myself and ultimately that is what I want. One of the women I'm working with is struggling with their relationship with food and their body.
Usually what they're really after if they can dig really deep is they're looking for peace and freedom, because the chaos that they live with day in and day out in their heads, with all the negative self-talk and all the should-ing on themselves and the, "This doesn't fit and that doesn't fit, and I can't eat that and I shouldn't eat that," it's exhausting.
Imagine what your life would be like if you were to find peace and freedom with food and your body, and you were able to move easily and do all the physical activity you want to do. Maybe it's chasing your kids. So it's just sitting down and really having the courage to go deeper into your "why".
When you can really ground yourself into that, like I said, you will make the time, you will get the workouts done, you will eat the food, you will pay down your bills. You will make it happen because that why, it's like your beacon of light drawing you forward.
When you know WHY you're do something, you will always have motivation to keep moving forward
Comparison: The Thief Of Joy
Dave Smith: I love that. As you were talking, this is a little bit of a tangent, but you really sparked a thought in my head here. When you were talking about "should" and you said, "We should on ourselves too much," and I think that's so true. I should be able to do that. If she can do that, I should be able to do that.
I had an interesting thing happen to day actually. In one of my programs we have a private Facebook group and one of the women posted a picture. Basically it was a close-up of her waist. She had her pants and was doing the typical pulling your pants away from her waist, showing all these inches that were lost in her pants. It was great.
It was a celebration of, she's really worked hard and got these results, so it's fantastic, but I know as soon as many of the women in the group see that picture, they will think, "If she could do it, I should be able to do it" or, "Why am I not doing that?" or, "What is wrong with me" or, "Why am I failing?" What you're speaking to is kind of getting past that and thinking, "No, this is why I'm on the journey. This is what it is for me," is just so important as opposed to comparing ourselves all the time. I don't know. Is that something that maybe you see with your clients?
Lisa Carpenter: Yeah. As the quote goes, "Comparison is the thief of joy." I think that one of the biggest gifts we can give ourselves is when we decide to stay in our own lane, so instead of comparing ourselves to somebody else's results or what they're doing, really acknowledging and celebrating what we're doing for ourselves.
When somebody else triggers us, so if you see a picture like that and you see, "Wow, she's lost all that weight," really that is the universe and I'm not going to get to woo on everybody, but that's the universe showing you that that's possible for you.
You can either lean into that and say like, "Wow, if she did it, I can do it," but then you've got to put your eyes back on your own lane and say, "Well, what do I need to focus on" instead of thinking that they've got the magic answer, they've got the magic pill. They don't. They don't. We are all capable of so much, but it really does mean that we have to put all the focus on ourselves and say, "What can I do for me here?"
Focus on Doing the "Next Right Thing"
Dave Smith: It's so wise. It is really a unique path for everyone. For someone like Jeanette, and it sounds like she really is looking, she's searching, "Okay, what's my unique path?" what are some steps that people in that position can take to identify, "These are the things that I can handle right now that'll have success with, that'll lead me at least in the right direction"?
Lisa Carpenter: Do the next right thing. I think one of the biggest stumbling blocks for a lot of women is they try and do too much all at once. We talked about my free video series over on my website and I really talk to this. It's about really tuning into how you're feeling, how you're feeling right now, and then getting clear on how you want to feel, so this comes back to your why as well, right? At the end of the day our why is always grounded in how we want to feel.
Once we determine how we want to feel, start taking small baby steps that are going to lead us in the direction of feeling that way. It doesn't have to be this huge undertaking. It can be simply deciding, "Okay, well, I'm not eating any vegetables, so I'm going to eat more vegetables this week" and that be enough, but let the smallest thing be good enough for right now because when you add up enough of those good enough, you suddenly are accomplishing amazing things in your life.
We discount the baby steps because we're so focused on the big audacious goal, but we never get to the big audacious goal if we don't celebrate the hell out of all the little steps we're taking along the way. That's the piece that I see so many women and men missing.
You never get to the bigger goal if you don't start with the smaller ones that precede it.
Dave Smith: Yeah. That's why, isn't it? It's interesting because I'm just looking at Jeanette's question right now and she says, "I've gone on spurts before" and even that word, using the word spurt suggests that she's really trying to make like a mad dash.
Lisa Carpenter: Yeah.
Dave Smith: Trying to make a big jump, make a leap and then that spurt eventually unravels and she ends up back to where she started, as she said. When you talk about that, just doing that one next thing, it's pretty hard to consider that a spurt. If my one next thing for today was, "I'm going to throw some vegetables into my lunch," jeez, I've got a pretty high success or likely a success if I'm going to choose that one little action.
Lisa Carpenter: Absolutely. All or nothing doesn't work. It doesn't work. We're not put on this earth to sprint indefinitely, right? If you're trying to change your relationship with food, we're talking a marathon. One of the things I want your listeners to understand and really they might not like hearing this, but you're going to have a relationship with food and your body until the day you die.
What is the hurry? What is the hurry? Why are you so anxious to get there? If you just step back and say, "Okay, if I'm on this path of creating health for my life, and this healthy relationship with food and my body, if I do something good for myself every single day, I'm going to get there."
When we can focus more on progress instead of trying to do it perfectly, you'll continue to move forward, but every time you do this all or nothing, you are setting yourself up to fail because you're not giving yourself permission to just learn and embrace the learning process and embrace the layering.
Dave Smith: Yeah. I love that. It brings to mind, I had a instance happen on the weekend. I was walking with my best friend here. We were just walking on the street. He's trying to get into fitness and was sort of asking my advice and how I go about doing different things. He said, "You know, what's your motivation?" He would look at me and say, "Okay, you've got there. You've achieved fitness. You look great. You're strong, whatever. What keeps you going?"
What you just said, I wish I had said it as well as you would said, but that idea of it being a marathon and it's a lifestyle. I hate even saying that, it's kind of cliché saying it's a lifestyle, but it really is. It's a choice that this is the way I'm going to do my life. You're going to do your life and many other people are as well, and that there's not an end goal and once we get there, we can check the box and say, "Yeah, I've arrived."
Lisa Carpenter: Exactly. What you said there, that was the key word, is choice. That's what we're trying to teach the people that we're working with, is that your life is a series of choices. I talked about how I want to feel, I want my clients to get grounded in their why and know how they want to feel.
Every time I make a choice, is this choice going to get me closer to how I want to feel or is it going to move me further away from how I want to feel? Choice is about yes or not. It's not about should or shouldn't. It's yes or no. When you can just start to make those choices that are going to support you, in the long run you're going to get there. That's how you create a lifestyle.
A lifestyle is really just tuning in to the choices that support how you want to feel, so some days I feel like I want to have a sour key candy. I love candy. I make that choice and that's okay. Then I move on. It's not a big deal, but so many people, they're not really making conscious choices, and then when they do make a choice, they beat themselves up afterwards, which then defeats the whole being empowered by making choices.
Whatever I Want, Whenever I Want?
Dave Smith: Yeah. This is something we've talked about on the show as well, is the idea of mindful choices. Just like you explained, stopping before you eat that sour key. I really like to way you explained that. Is this going to move me closer to the way that I want to feel or further away from it? Can you give an example of when you ask yourself that, when would it be okay, air quotes there, okay to eat that sour key?
Lisa Carpenter: Any time I want! There's a good answer, huh?
Dave Smith: That was a great answer.
Lisa Carpenter: Which is like, "What?" Mic drop. That is the truth though. You know, food is neither good or bad.
Dave Smith: Yeah.
Lisa Carpenter: It really is just about making choices, so if I really want to have that sour key, then I'm going to have the sour key and, like I said, I'm going to move on. If I have a specific goal and I know that that's not going to move me closer to the goal, then is that the best choice for me to make? Maybe not, but it's still my choice to make.
There's nobody wagging a finger of shame at me anymore. I don't judge myself for my choices. I think the more I can help women step into that place of really taking ownership for their choices from an empowered stance, and understanding like, they really can have whatever they want whenever they want it, it just is a choice. Is it supporting what you really want for yourself?
Because the dieting industry is perpetuated on this, "You can't have that. You shouldn't eat that." That's disempowering, right? That robs us of our choice. When I get my clients to that place of understanding, "No, really, you can have whatever you want whenever you want it," you just make a decision. All a sudden, it's not a big deal.
I'll tell you a story of my father-in-law and this is really what flipped it for me. He told me once that he'd never actually quit smoking. He just made the decision that he wasn't going to have one today, and every day he'd get up and decide he wasn't going to have one. 20 years later he wasn't smoking anymore. When we can look at food the same way, when we realize that we can have whatever we want whenever we want it, guess what? We remove the taboo. It's not a big deal.
Dave Smith: That smoking analogy is fantastic. I could see how people could easily apply that, breaking down a big goal. You talked about being someone that likes candy, so if you're addicted to candy as opposed to saying, "Hey, I'm never going to eat another sour key in my life," today I'm not going to eat a sour key.
Lisa Carpenter: That's right.
Dave Smith: That sounds surmountable.
Lisa Carpenter: That's right. A lot of the work that I do is around food addiction and I've got close connections with the addiction community. My husband is in recovery for addiction, so I got a really phenomenal unrequested education in addiction. That's one of the principles that recovery is based on, is it's one day at a time. It's one choice at a time.
You don't meet somebody who's in recovery who says, "I'm never going to drink again." That's not how they go about getting healthy. They literally focus on one day at a time. When we can look at that the same way with food, whether you're a food addict or not, when you realize that it's just one choice at a time, you'll get to where you want to go and you'll be much kinder to yourself through the process.
Delay, Distract, Decide
Dave Smith: I agree. There's a little trick that I use with many of my clients. It's called Delay, Distract, Decide.
Lisa Carpenter: Yes.
Dave Smith: You've heard this before?
Lisa Carpenter: Yes.
Dave Smith: For the listeners, in case you haven't heard this before, basically when you come to a decision, so let's use a cookie ... Say it's 10:00 o'clock at night and there's a cookie sitting on the counter and you really want to eat it. As opposed to just eating it and then feeling guilty later, it's this delay, so give yourself a minute. Say, "Okay, I'm not going to eat it for one minute." Then distract yourself, so I'm going to go and do something else, whether that be read ... I'm going to go read an article in a magazine, let's say.
After you're done reading that article, come back and you can make that decision, or maybe you don't come back. Just keep on reading your magazine and make the decision from there, but creating that little buffer zone really helps with what we're talking about, these mindful decisions, as opposed to always just making impulse decisions.
Lisa Carpenter: Absolutely. It's consciousness. Is, are you willing to live your life conscious? Are you willing to make your choices from a conscious state? So often, when people come to me, and I'm sure the same for you, they're just so unconscious of everything. It's getting them to tune in.
Like, maybe it's not the cookie you even need at 10:00 o'clock at night. Maybe you're tired and you need to go to bed and your body is actually saying, "Hey, we need to sleep, but we're teasing you by making you think you're hungry" but that's not actually what's going on. When we can tune into what triggers us to make certain choices, that's empowering as well.
It's an Inside-Out Job
Dave Smith: Yeah. It's interesting where the conversation has gotten because when I look back at Jeanette's question, on the surface level she's saying, "I don't have time and I need some help making time," and this whole conversation hasn't really been about time management at all. Honestly, Lisa, when I came into this conversation I thought you were going to give us, "Here's five tips for finding more time in your life."
Lisa Carpenter: Oh. I'm so not the five tips girl. I'm so sorry. I always go off on tangents.
Dave Smith: Why would you say that what we're talking about is perhaps more important than five tips for finding 15 minutes in your day?
Lisa Carpenter: I know that everybody just loves tips, but the problem is we're not getting healthier. We're not moving forward. People are still struggling with their weight. We really just need to pull our heads out of our butts and understand that there's way more going on than just the foods you eat or the hours in the day. It's not that.
It's, we get to create our own realities, and how we think and feel about everything determines the results that we get in our lives, in our businesses, with the relationships that we're having with other people. It really does come down to mindset.
I can teach women, and you can as well, what foods they should eat to change their bodies, but no amount of system in the world will change your thinking. Going back to my story around paying down my debt, I didn't just wake up one day and decide I was going to pay down my debt.
How you think and feel will always determine your results. What's happening inside?
I have spent years now working on my relationship with money and my mindset around money. Unless you can change the inside, your mindset around weight loss, around your body, no amount of making time is going to get you the changes you want, so you have to start getting conscious of your life.
You have to start looking at how you're showing up in your world. Stop being a victim. A victim is all about external circumstances. Step into this empowered place of saying, "What can I do here? What do I have control over and how do I need to change in my thought patterns to actually achieve what it is I want?"
I'm sorry we didn't totally answer the question, but I really hope it's given you some food for thought. Instead of saying, "Okay, this is the problem, I don't have enough time," what if that's not the problem? What if the problem starts from the inside out?
Why am I not making time? Why do I not care enough about my body to find an hour in the day that's just for me to take care of it? Why do I not have enough time to sit down and eat a meal? You don't have a life if you don't have your body and your body needs food to be alive, so why is it that you're at the bottom of the pile of everything else in your life and you're the one that you have no time for? Why is that okay? When you can start asking yourself those questions, and they're not easy to ask, but they need to be. They need to be asked if you really want to transform your relationship with food.
Dave Smith: Yeah, and I think it's important to point out that it's not a rhetorical question. You know, why are you at the bottom of your priority list? That's a real question.
Lisa Carpenter: Absolutely.
Dave Smith: Why? Jeanette, perhaps yourself, hopefully you're listening to this, but when you talk about not having enough time and wanting to find more time, why is your time at the bottom of that list?
Lisa Carpenter: Exactly. When you strip back everything, at least for the work that I do with women, it all comes down to low self-esteem and low self-worth, and food, their relationship with food, is used to mask the fact that they are disconnected from themselves. They don't know how they're feeling. They don't know what makes them important in this world.
When you strip away all the stuff they're doing, when you strip away all the things that they're using to make themselves feel better, they really don't know why they're on this planet and what makes them unique and special. That's where the tough work starts and that's why I say that losing weight is such an inside out job. It really has to start with doing the deeper inner work and looking at the relationship you're having with yourself.
Make Your Body Work Takeaway
Dave Smith: Lisa, it's funny because this is going to sound a little bit hypocritical, but I like to finish up this show with what's called a Make Your Body work takeaway and I like to give an actionable step that people can do today. Instead of an actionable step, could you maybe pose a question or two or three that we could all ask ourselves? I'd say even maybe more than ask ourselves these questions, but actually write them down and write out a response, and really spend some time, 15, 20, 30 minutes thinking about them. What are some questions that are a great place to begin?
Lisa Carpenter: Oh, you're really putting me on the spot. This is great.
Dave Smith: To be honest, we've touched on a number, so maybe even just...
Lisa Carpenter: I know.
Dave Smith: ... kind of wrapping up with...
Lisa Carpenter: I hope people are taking notes.
Dave Smith: I know.
Lisa Carpenter: What I would say is start with what are the stories that you have about food or healthy eating and your body? This is an exercise that I have my clients do. It literally is like, everything negative that you hear in your head, write it down.
What are the thoughts you think about yourself? You know, "I think I'm fat. I think I'm out of shape. I could never be fit. I could never wear whatever size." Whatever stories you have about your body ... "I'm big-boned. I'm more boxy." It could be whatever you want, but I want you to write those stories down. Write down the stories that you have around what it means to be healthy.
The stories that I hear all the time is that, "It's too much work. Takes too much time. It's too expensive. I'll have to eat boring food. I won't have time for my family. I'll have to eat things that I don't like." Start to write down all those stories, everything that you can come up with about food and your body and exercise, if you want.
Once you put pen to paper, something magical happens. When you write all this stuff out and it's staring at you, it's hard to look at it and say, "That's the truth." It's really hard to look at that stuff and say, "That's the truth." That's where you can start rewriting those stories.
What if healthy eating isn't hard? What if it wasn't hard? Because I can tell you there's a gazillion recipes on Pinterest that are super quick and easy. It doesn't have to be hard. Healthy eating doesn't have to taste boring, really doesn't, and it doesn't need to be complicated. You may never be a size two, but who says you can't love your body right now the way it is? Who told you that you weren't worthy if you were a size 12 or a size 14? What's stopping you from loving yourself right now?
Just by claiming those stories, the first way to rewriting the things we want for ourselves is we have to claim the stories that we're carrying around right now, so even the, "I don't have time," write that story down. If you really believe that to be true, keep a log of everything you do in your day.
I guarantee you, you will find that there's a lot of time in there that is just wasted kind of junk time, whether it's scrolling Facebook or doing who knows what. If it's just a story, you can rewrite the story and you really can start to go after the things that you want in your world.
Dave Smith: Yeah. It's interesting how this conversation has come full circle because as you're speaking on stories, I think about what it means to be healthy, what it means to exercise, what's the story I have in my head about food. Quite often perhaps Jeanette and other listeners will say that, "All of those things require a lot of time and I don't have time."
I hope I'm not speaking out of place, but I think that if most people really sit down and look at a couple of different ways to approach those categories, we can all agree that it doesn't have to be a huge time requirement. I love the fact that you said Pinterest. Go on Pinterest. Jeez, there are so many meals, healthy, tasty meals on there that take virtually no time. That take as much time to prepare as a junky meal.
Lisa Carpenter: Exactly.
Dave Smith: Same with exercise. You can build exercise in your day without losing any time at all.
Lisa Carpenter: Exactly. It's choice. Here's the thing. You have to eat. Every single day you have to eat, which means if you just choose to put different foods in your house and make different choices when you're out, if you're eating out, you can do better for yourself. It's not a time management thing. It's a mindset. This is a mindset issue.
Want to Connect with Lisa?
Dave Smith: Ah, love it. Lisa, I just want to say thanks again. This discussion has been really eye-opening. You've raised some really great questions. I know that some of the listeners, they might have more questions or would like to follow up with you. What's the best way that they can get in touch with you?
Lisa Carpenter: They can find me over on my website, at lisacarpenter.ca, and they'll find lots of goodies on there. Another great place to follow along is I co-host a podcast called All the Stuff. I work with a clutter coach and I work with a money coach.
We talk about all the things under our relationship with food, money and clutter because, again, it's not about the stuff. It's about the mindset. Those are really rich conversations, so those are great places to connect with me, and of course, I'm easy to find on Facebook as well and I'm usually live streaming at least a couple of times a week.
Dave Smith: Cool. You mentioned it in this podcast, but before the show actually started recording we were talking a little bit about your three part video series. I'm going to put a link in the show notes. For the listening audience, if you go to makeyourbodywork.com/70, I'll have all these links that we've talked about here. One of them will be to this video series. Can you tell us a little bit about what's included in that series?
Lisa Carpenter: It's actually a seven day ... It's three videos and over seven days. It's called my No Deprivation Weight Loss. It really is a different way of coming at weight loss. Instead of, "I can't eat that. I shouldn't eat that," it's going to help you really ground into how you're feeling right now, how you want to feel, getting you to get clear on why this is important to you, and then helping you to identify where there's gaps in your nutritional plan right now.
Instead of overhauling everything and saying, "You ought to eat this way," it's going back in and saying, "Okay, well, where can I add things in?" And not making it hard, so like adding in one new thing a week. That is really how you'll find that the things that aren't really supporting how you want to feel, they'll fall away as you slowly add in the things that are going to support you claiming better health.
Dave Smith: Awesome. Yeah, so for the listeners, again you can get the link to No Deprivation Weight Loss, this video series, and you can connect with Lisa. Check out makeyourbodywork.com/70 and we'll have all those links there. Lisa, again, thanks for joining us today.
Lisa Carpenter: It was fantastic. Yeah, I was very honored when I found out that people were talking about my work and that you would found out about me. That was very, very cool. I'm glad that people are paying attention to what I'm putting out into the world, so thank you.
Dave Smith: Thanks again, Lisa, for joining us on the show today and for providing some practical steps, but also asking some very important questions that maybe we can all ask ourselves, maybe reevaluate if we've thought about these before, that it'll hopefully put us on the right path to balancing our life and figuring out how we can be on that healthy lifestyle path that we want to be on.
Now thanks to you, the listener as well, for tuning in and thanks for just being a part of this community, being part of this show. Thanks for all the questions that you send in every week. Like I've said before, honestly it's my favorite part of the day. I know this sounds weird, hard to believe maybe, but opening up my inbox and reading through your questions and getting inspiration of where to go with the next episode...
Speaking of which, I've got a really cool episode coming next week. It's all about the aging process. The question is, can exercise actually make you age more quickly? My guest, she shares some really cool information about the aging process, what we can do to slow down the aging process and how that fits in with exercise, so be sure to tune in, again, next week for that episode.
As always, if you have questions, feel free to contact me at any time. It's [email protected]. Your question, maybe it's something for a future episode on the podcast or maybe you just have a personal question that you'd like some help with. Like I said, contact me any time. I'm here to help. I'm here to be a support. I'm here to be your coach, so [email protected] Thanks again for tuning in today and I can't wait to see you here again next week.